It’s My Birthday! 23 Things I’ve Learned in 23 Years

23 Things I've Learned in 23 Years

I love birthdays! It’s so exciting to celebrate another year of life, look forward to new opportunities, and cake! This year as my birthday started approaching, I had a different response. I wasn’t as excited as I normally am for birthdays. Maybe it was because I hadn’t really planned anything fun to do? Or maybe it was because I knew I wouldn’t get a dog? Maybe it was because Brad is coaching on my birthday, which means I won’t see him at all that day? Or maybe it was because I don’t know what to do with 23?

Twenty-three years old, what an odd age. I’m in the weird limbo of trying to be young and carefree, while also trying to be an adult, get a job, and figure out the deep meanings of life. It’s a very strange place to be. I’m also in a very different stage of life than most people my age. I’m married, a home owner, a youth pastor’s wife, and I have a hard time relating to most people in their early twenties. I feel more drawn to those in their mid-to-late twenties. Not to mention, I got married at 22 to a man who was 27, now 28. That also adds a-whole-nother thing into the mix of trying to balance being young and being an adult, considering my husband is almost 30 and I’m trying to “keep up” with him in a sense. It’s a tricky age and there’s even a song about how nobody loves you when you’re 23 and I can see why! So, can I just skip to 24 and be one step closer to 25 and my mid-twenties?!

Although I have no idea what to think going into this next year of life, I’m excited. I feel like 2018 is going to bring lots of blessings, eye opening experiences, and perspective change. I feel like I’m going to see God’s hand in ways I’ve never known before. That’s my prayer for 23.


As I look back to the 23 years before now, here are 23 things I’ve learned in 23 years:

1. It’s always a good time for a nap.

2. You can never have enough pairs of pajamas (or socks!)

3. You can’t move forward if you’re always looking behind you. It’s like driving only looking through the rearview mirror.

4. You’ll be lucky if you’re friends with anyone from high school, so don’t waste so much time trying to impress people. Be true to yourself and those who matter will stick around.

5. God often calls us to the places we feel the least qualified. (His strength works best in our weakness!)

6. More often than not, we are our own worst critic.

7. Who you surround yourself with really will make all the difference.

8. Don’t take yourself too seriously! Have a dance party in the car or sing really loud in the shower!

9. Get married to your best friend. It’s the best adventure ever!

10. Don’t get so caught up in trying to be where everyone else is, God has you where you are for a purpose.

11. There’s nothing better than a good belly laugh.

12. There will always someone better off than you and someone worse off. Just be yourself.

13. To help keep your house tidy, just put things up once you use them. (Still working on this one…lol at my closet!)

14. Go to Canada! Canada is my absolute favorite place to travel.

15. It’s okay not to be okay all the time.

16. Always approach an argument, or confrontation, knowing that the other person has your best interest in mind and most likely didn’t do whatever they did intentionally to hurt you.

(This is key in marriage. Whatever your spouse did to upset you, they probably didn’t do it intentionally to hurt you. Having this mentality saves a lot of unnecessary arguments and hurts.)

17. Love well. People notice.

18. Whataburger, McDonalds, and QuickTrip have the best soda. Hands down.

19. Shop local more. It’s usually better quality and you’re making someone’s dream come true and you can’t put a price on that!

20. Your attitude will create your atmosphere. If you have a positive attitude, your life will reflect that.

21. Tell your parents, and grandparents, you love them, even when you don’t want to. You’ll be glad you did.

22. There’s never a Target run I don’t enjoy.

You can shop my recent Target purchases here.

23. There is more freedom in vulnerability than there ever will be in keeping everything bottled in.

BONUS: Everything starts with someone, so let it start with you. 




10 thoughts on “It’s My Birthday! 23 Things I’ve Learned in 23 Years

  1. Is it your birthday today?? Happy birthday! It’s my husband’s birthday today, too! I couldn’t agree more about no. 1 on your list! I get naps whenever I could because it’s essential when you want to stay sane. Hahaha!

  2. I’m halfway through 25 and I absolutely love this post. What stood out to me the most is your last point about keeping everything bottled in. If there any regrets I’ve had up to age 25, it would be bottling in so many things about myself. That will only eat at you over time. I’ve been more at peace the more open and vulnerable I’ve been. Great post, and Happy Birthday!

    – Tia |

  3. Such a great list! (especially the one about naps) My friend is 23 and her husband is 30 and we’ve had conversations where she has shared similar feelings that you did in this post, so know you’re not alone. I hope 23 is the best year yet! 🙂

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